The Heart of the Matter

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The Heart of the Matter

Program Overview

Unfortunately, over half of marriages end in divorce. Rather than become another unhappy statistic, there is an alternative. We can learn to create healthy relationships not just by happenstance but by learning the skills to keep our relationships healthy, loving and fun. On each episode of The Heart of the Matter, Rev. George will be joined by his co-hosts Tom and Joyce DeVoge, relationship specialists, taking calls and exploring ways to keep relationships alive, fresh and loving.


The ideas and opinions expressed on this program do not necessarily reflect the teachings of Unity. Unity respects a wide range of spiritual thoughts and beliefs, as reflected in the diverse range of subjects presented on Unity Online Radio.

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  • Original air date: Wednesday, June 16, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Intimate relationships function better when people ask clearly for what they want.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, June 02, 2010
    Episode Description:
    We're supposed to mature with age. In the arena of relationships, we may not know what emotional maturity looks like. We'll give examples of both mature and immature behaviors.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, May 26, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Relationships in the workplace can cross boundaries that place your primary relationship in jeopardy. We'll talk about the most common pitfalls and how to avoid them.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, May 19, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Stress is prevalent just about everywhere in our fast-paced society. We'll discuss ways to chill out so that you can warm up your primary relationship.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 28, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Relationships are friendlier and more intimate when both people follow the same rules. This program discusses 10 rules that friends need to be mindful of.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 21, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Jealousy is a painful and destructive force in an intimate relationship. We discuss the dynamics of a triangle, how to recognize the presence of jealousy, and how to undo it.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 14, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Meaningful events in a relationship need to be marked by a celebration. This program addresses practical tips for savoring special occasions.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 07, 2010
    Episode Description:
    A well-tendered relationship involves both work and play. For the relationship to thrive and nurture the couple, these activities need to be in balance.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, March 24, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Bonding is a biological need, necessary for good health, for children and adults. It is the only biological need that requires the cooperation of another person.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, March 10, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Sometimes in an intimate relationship, we want our own way. When this happens, our actions may tend to restrict the behavior of our partner to think, act or feel like we do. These behaviors are power tactics and are felt by our partners as dirty fighting.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, March 03, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Responsible complaining is an important skill for successful friendship. Complaining should involve criticism, blaming or attacking. Good listening skills are required for processing our partner's complaints.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, February 24, 2010
    Episode Description:
    One major difference between happy and unhappy couples is the ability to resolve conflict effectively with respect. Most of us learned only unfair and dirty tactics for arguing and fighting to settle differences. Negotiation is a step-by-step alternative to unfair tactics.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, February 17, 2010
    Episode Description:
    When anger is aroused, many of us feel a pull toward immature expression of this emotion. We offer practical methods for safe and mature management of this potentially destructive emotion.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, January 20, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Appreciation is the atomic structure of affection. When we express our appreciation, we enjoy the benefits of feeling and sending gratitude.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, January 13, 2010
    Episode Description:
    Most of us want rewarding, satisfying relationships, those that are mutually pleasurable. A deeper understanding of the element of friendship can guide us toward this goal.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, January 06, 2010
    Episode Description:
    The fun is over; the bills are due. This is a likely time to feel sad--unless you take charge of January.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, December 16, 2009
    Episode Description:
    So often we think that if our partner does their part in being responsible in our relationship, then we'll do ours. This program stresses the importance of doing our part to support the relationship, no matter wgat our partner is contributing or not contributing.



  • Original air date: Wednesday, December 09, 2009
    Episode Description:
    All of us want to feel close and connected to our partner, but how do we do that? This program covers six important behaviors to avoid that undermine intimacy. In addition, we discuss six types of behavior that promoted couples feeling close and connected.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, December 02, 2009
    Episode Description:
    We tend to think of the holidays as fun and pleasant events. But why are they so stressful? This program covers the challenges of the holiday season and how to effectively deal with them.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, November 18, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Fighting is costly and unproductive. We describe and recommend alternatives.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, November 11, 2009
    Episode Description:
    In conjunction with the Golden Rule, this rule guides us to better meet our partner's needs.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, November 04, 2009
    Episode Description:
    A wide variety of health issues have been linked to affection. We explore this rich and informative research.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, October 28, 2009
    Episode Description:
    There are concrete steps one can take to rebuild trust and affect after a betrayal and we'll be exploring those possibilities.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, October 07, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Intimacy is a process, not a destination. We recommend daily rituals and tools to sustain connection.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, September 30, 2009
    Episode Description:
    To maintain a healthy relationship, both people have to play by the same set of rules. We'll offer 10 rules that work.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, September 23, 2009
    Episode Description:
    A discussion of the qualities to look for in deciding who will likely make a good friend and who will not.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, September 16, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Nonsexual, low-tech suggestions for physically intimate partners.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, September 09, 2009
    Episode Description:
    The English language is limited to one term for love. We will discuss different kinds of loving relationships.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, September 02, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Intimate relationships function better when people ask clearly for what they want.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, August 26, 2009
    Episode Description:
    The parenting relationship is a complex and special one that requires the parent to assume a dominant and loving attitude.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, August 19, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Listen in for a communication task for relieving stresses external to our relationships.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, July 15, 2009
    Episode Description:
    We are emotional beings. Understanding our emotions and how to recognize and control them is necessary in keeping love alive.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, July 08, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Individuals in relationships can develop resentments and grudges that can last long periods of time. Intimacy cannot be restored until the grudges are released. We’ll talk about ways to release, let go, and get back to the love.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, June 24, 2009
    Episode Description:
    We’re supposed to mature with age. In the arena of relationships, we may not know what emotional maturity looks like. We’ll give examples of both mature and immature emotional behaviors.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, June 17, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Men and women approach intimacy in different ways. What appeals to a man may not appeal to a woman. We’ll discuss the common differences and how to address them.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, June 03, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Stress is prevalent just about everywhere in our fast-paced society. We’ll discuss ways to chill out so that you can warm up your primary relationship.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, May 27, 2009
    Episode Description:
    How we feel about ourselves affects how successful we’ll be in our primary relationship. We provide tips for improving self-esteem so that your relationship isn’t hampered by a history of self-criticism.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, May 20, 2009
    Episode Description:
    The pain of betrayal is often the most difficult relationship challenges to heal. We’ll talk about the steps necessary for healing and renewed trust.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, May 13, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Relationships in the workplace can cross boundaries that place your primary relationship in jeopardy. We’ll talk about the most common pitfalls and how to avoid them.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, May 06, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Relationship triangles and jealousy—it is easy to get caught in triangulation with members of the opposite sex. This episode explores warning signs and suggests ways to maintain your integrity and your relationship.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 29, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Join Rev. George today for a discussion on jealousy in relationships and how to deal with it.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 22, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Join Rev. George today for thoughts on celebrating relationships, creatively.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 15, 2009
    Episode Description:
    We can learn to create healthy relationships not just by happenstance but by learning the skills to keep our relationships healthy, loving and fun. Join Rev. George on The Heart of the Matter this week to explore communication tools and how to read one another.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 08, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Join in for today’s discussion on the three-part brain and what it means in terms of relationships.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, March 25, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Tune in for today’s discussion with Rev. George Whitton on healthy relationships and creating bonds and developing closeness.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, March 11, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Join in today’s discussion on creating healthy relationships: achieving resolution through the art of negotiating.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, March 04, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Tune in for today’s discussion on essential communication skills for healthy relationships.
  • Episode: Conflict
    Original air date: Wednesday, February 25, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Differences attract us in the beginning of a relationship but they can become sources of conflict after commitment and marriage. This show explores how we can successfully handle our differences.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, February 18, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Anger is part of the human experience. However, feelings of love and friendship depend on gentleness. We cannot afford to be very angry very often.
  • Episode: The Five G’s
    Original air date: Wednesday, February 11, 2009
    Episode Description:
    The Five G’s—Gentleness, Generosity, Graciousness, Gratitude, and Goodwill—are essential attitudes and forms of conduct that support the caring part of a friendship.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, February 04, 2009
    Episode Description:
    Join Rev. George Whitton and guests Rev. Suzanne and Matt Carter for a discussion on ways to keep relationships alive, fresh, and loving.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, January 21, 2009
    Episode Description:
    This program focuses on using appreciation to assist in solidifying the foundation of our love and friendship of another.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, January 14, 2009
    Episode Description:
    This often neglected part of the relationship can be used to make a relationship seem more warmer, safer, and inviting.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, December 17, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Trust is the foundation of committed relationship. What can you do to rebuild it if the foundation cracks? Join host George Whitton to find out ways to repair and heal.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, December 10, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Six Do's and Six Don'ts to Deepen Intimacy.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, December 03, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Join in the discussion to find out the important role self-esteem plays in intimacy.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, November 19, 2008
    Episode Description:
    We can learn to maintain caring and friendliness no matter how our partner is behaving.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, November 12, 2008
    Episode Description:
    In conjunction with the Golden Rule, this rule guides us to better meet our partner’s needs.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, October 29, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Fighting is costly and unproductive. We describe and recommend alternatives.
  • Episode: Loving What Is
    Original air date: Wednesday, October 15, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Rev. George welcomes Loving What Is expert Rev. Martha Creek. They will discuss how using the Loving What Is technique can be used to strengthen relationships.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, October 08, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Intimacy is a process, not a destination. We recommend daily rituals and tools to sustain connection.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, September 24, 2008
    Episode Description:
    A discussion of the qualities to look for in deciding who will likely make a good friend and who will not.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, September 17, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Nonsexual, low-tech suggestions for physically intimate partners.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, September 03, 2008
    Episode Description:
    The parenting relationship is a complex and special one that requires the parent to assume a dominant and loving attitude.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, August 27, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Description and demonstration of a communication tool for relieving stresses external to the relationship.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, August 20, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Not all of our inheritance is physical or material. Some of our inheritance from family concerns patterns and styles of relating to our intimate partners. We'll discuss how our social inheritance affects us.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, August 13, 2008
    Episode Description:
    We can be unaware that we're holding a grudge with our partner. This discussion will focus on becoming aware of a grudge and how to move toward forgiveness.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, July 23, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Life often presents us with challenging personalities. Most of us can appreciate help in identifying and dealing with these individuals.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, July 16, 2008
    Episode Description:
    What does it mean to be emotionally mature? This program will explore ways to demonstrate emotional maturity and how we can manifest this state of effective healthy consciousness.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, July 09, 2008
    Episode Description:
    We often are under the illusion that what we want in our intimate relationship is the same thing our partner wants. We’ll explore the healthy differences that exist between the sexes and how to use them to our advantage.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, July 02, 2008
    Episode Description:
    We are often disappointed when we look to and insist others to give us what we need. We’ll talk about numerous ways to take care of ourselves under conditions of stress.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, June 25, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Our nature is one of love. Yet we get into states of consciousness that work against our nature. We’ll explore how we avoid intimacy and how we can get back to the love.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, June 04, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Learn the 10 rules for creating a healthy and supportive friendship. To maintain a healthy relationship, both people have to play by the same rules. We’ll offer 10 rules that work.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, May 28, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Adequate self-esteem is an essential ingredient in having and maintaining a healthy intimate relationship. We’ll talk about how to create and maintain a fit self-image.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 30, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Rituals play important roles in committed relationships. Developing meaningful celebration rituals deepens our experience of friendship and pleasure.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 23, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Healthy relationships have a balance between work time and play time. We’ll elaborate on essential differences between work and play and their unique contributions to our relationships.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 16, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Our brains consist of three independent parts working together. Knowledge of these parts is useful in becoming more competent in our relationships.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, April 09, 2008
    Episode Description:
    A basic element of intimacy is being close and feeling comfortable with your partner. This means learning how to be a source of physical pleasure for you partner.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, March 19, 2008
    Episode Description:
    Two positive gifts to the process of ironing out differences in a friendly way are listening and responsible complaining. We will describe safe and effective ways to perform each of these skills.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, March 05, 2008
    Episode Description:
    As we have noted, friendship depends upon being gentle. We simply cannot afford to be very angry with each other very often. Nonetheless, anger is a natural part of any close relationship and occurs with some frequency. The key is to manage the anger.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, February 27, 2008
    Episode Description:
    While differences attract us in the beginning of a close relationship, they can become sources of conflict after prolonged contact. Other sources of conflict stem from differences in gender, family histories, temperament, personality traits and brain biology. Join us to learn more.
  • Episode: The Five G's
    Original air date: Wednesday, February 20, 2008
    Episode Description:
    We will discuss the five G's--the fundamental attitudes which are important to promote affection and friendship.
  • Episode: Love Languages
    Original air date: Wednesday, February 13, 2008
    Episode Description:
    We'll be discussing love languages and caring behaviors. There are many ways to express the love we feel for one another. We'll be discussing how to keep love vibrant through what we say and what we do.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, February 06, 2008
    Episode Description:
    The atomic structure of love and friendship identifies the words and deeds as being appreciated. Velcro, describing how the appreciator feels inside about the words and deeds.
  • Original air date: Wednesday, January 30, 2008
    Episode Description:
    We’ll be sharing techniques to keep your relationships healthy, loving, and fun. Dr. Tom and Joyce DeVoge, relationship experts, will join the discussion and give us ideas that will help you create loving friendships.


Host Bio

Rev. George Whitton
Rev. George Whitton is on staff at the New Thought Unity Center in Cincinnati and serves as director of radio. He has been attending Unity since 1979. He teaches classes and along with his wife Nancy, a licensed teacher, facilitates a midweek evening service at his Center.

As a licensed Unity teacher, George has hosted more than 1000 radio shows since 1997. George produces shows that are designed to provide information and inspiration so that we might live rich, abundant and peaceful lives.

Each week he is joined by co-hosts Tom and Joyce DeVoge Tom and his wife, Joyce, both certified Master Teachers and Trainers in PAIRS (Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills), founded the Cincinnati Relationship Center (CRC) in 2000. CRC is a sanctuary for people with personal and relationship concerns. The center offers adolescent and adult psychotherapy as well as marital counseling. Tom and Joyce also conduct PAIRS workshops for couples and relationship classes for couples and individuals, as well as recommitment counseling for couples.